Twenty six things I love about my twenty six year old husband

It was my husband’s twenty sixth birthday, so I’ve written a list of one thing I love about him for every year of his life. I did the same thing three years ago, but I’ve done this list without looking at the last one, so hopefully I don’t double up.

I love…

1. His wisdom
2. His loyalty
3. His sense of humour
4. That he works so hard so that I can stay home with Madelyn
5. How he is so good at keeping secrets
6. And how he knows when to keep said secrets, and when it’s okay to tell others
7. The admiration and trust in Madelyn’s voice when she says “Daddy”
8. How smart he is
9. His honesty
10. How easily he gets along with everyone he meets
11. How much the kids he works with love him
12. The way he gains the respect of the kids he works with
13. How level-headed he is
14. His ability to stay calm in an emergency
15. How logical he is
16. How good he is with money
17. His leadership
18. His confidence
19. How much he loves Madelyn
20. How understanding he is
21. How he remains in control of his emotions
22. His support of me as Madelyn’s mother
23. His hospitality
24. His face
25. How much fun it is to do life with him
26. The way we have become so comfortable with each other

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“I know what it is to live entirely for and with what I love best on earth. I hold myself supremely blest — blest beyond what language can express; because I am my husband’s life as fully as he is mine.” 
― Charlotte Brontë (Jane Eyre)

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10 Blogs I Think You Should Read

I spend a lot of time reading blogs these days. Madelyn is going through a “I won’t nap unless you hold me” stage (which includes, for the moment, not napping in the front pack, because if I’m moving around then she wants to see what’s up), so a good three or four hours of every day, unless I’m out and she sleeps in the car, are spent either at the computer, or on the couch. I am absolutely not complaining, I love this stage in our lives, and am so thankful to have the freedom to hold my sleeping baby every day. But, yeah, it lends itself to a lot of extra blog-reading time.

So I thought it would be fun to share the blogs I’m reading at the moment. This is by no means an exhaustive list of my favourites, but these blogs certainly are among my faves at the moment. You should go over and check them out, I think you’ll really like them too (all links should open a new tab).

1) Solo Mama
I started reading this blog when its author, Lindsay, and I were both pregnant. Her little cutie is only 9 days older than Madelyn, so it’s really fun to see how another mother with a baby the same age copes with life. She’s also into all the some baby stuff as me – breastfeeding, baby-wearing, co-sleeping (though she’s about to move her daughter into her own cot, so I’m looking forward to reading how that goes), baby-led weaning, basically just a whole lot of following her intuition. And her little Evelyn is utterly adorable.

2) Nurse Me Mama
I came across this blog on Facebook (because I spend a lot of time there, too), and I love it. Its author is a lactation consultant, so she has a lot of awesome information about breastfeeding and all that goes along with it, as well as beautiful posts about her family. At the moment, in honour of National Breastfeeding Month, she has been sharing a photo a day of herself breastfeeding her baby, which is such a cool idea that I’m kind of jealous I didn’t think of it myself.

3) Some Stuff About Stuff
This is a blog I’ve just recently started following.  The author, Jessie, has two adorable children, including Sparrow, who is having her third heart surgery at the moment. I’m sure she would appreciate your prayers, but she’s also really talented, and her blog is worth a read.

4) Katesurfs
This is another blog I’ve only just recently started following. Kate, the author, is an American who now lives in Australia. She is another parent who is into doing a lot of the same stuff with her babies as I do. She also does Elimination Communication with her kids, which is really interesting to read about because I’d heard of it before, but hadn’t really understood how it works.

5) Mrs. Odie
Mrs. Odie is like a breath of fresh air, because she doesn’t portray her life as perfectly wonderful, and so many bloggers do. She’s honest, and a very talented writer. Mrs Odie (not her real name) is a high school teacher, and her anonymity allows her to be very candid in her blog posts.

6) The Struggler’s Handbook
I came across this blog a while ago, when the struggler wrote about his daughter’s wedding (his daughter is roughly my age). He is wonderful, as is his lovely wife who has been known to comment on my blog using his WordPress account. He is a fantastic writer, and I love his way of looking at life.

7) Life With Pink Princesses
This is the new-ish blog of a young mum who, I’m pretty sure, lives in the UK. Jodie, the author, shares about her life as the mother of two gorgeous little girls. She has also written a couple of books that are available for purchase, and is a talented writer.

8) Housewifing
This blog provides me with a lot of inspiration for being an amazing housewife. Michele, the author, shares candidly about her life looking after her family. She’s currently doing a Motherhood With A Toddler series, which is a really interesting and informative read.

9) Flow Thyme
I found this blog on the Breastfeeding NZ Facebook page, and I’m so glad I did. The author is another attachment parenting New Zealand mother, with a beautiful baby daughter, Alyssa. I love reading about her life.

10) The Pattys
This is another blog that I started following when I was pregnant, and the author’s little girl is a few months old than Madelyn.

Top 12 Blog Posts of 2012

Remembering all that happened in 2012 is harder than it’s ever been to remember a year. Too much happened. Too much changed. I’m finding it hard to wrap my head around what a massive, awesome, unexpected year it was. While I attempt to do so, and to put it into some sort of order, I thought I would look back on my blog for the past year. These blog posts are the top according to WordPress and Facebook statistics, and have been some of my favourites.

12. This is love

One thing that always surprises me is just how much people seem to like to read about my husband and how wonderful he is. I wrote this blog post as a reminder to myself of all the ways Angus shows me he loves me, because they’re so easy to miss. His selfless love for me is expressed daily, in the littlest of things. This was one post that many people commented on in real life, and remains one that I love to read every now and again.

11. The Submission posts (Part 1 and Part 2)

Not having been raised in a Christian family, my views on marriage differ greatly to the views of most of my family, and many of my friends. Speaking openly about the way our marriage works, with regard to Biblical teaching, was not a decision that I made lightly. I don’t like to alienate people, and “Wives, submit to your husbands” can be a rather alienating command. The second post in which I spoke about submission was written straight away after I published the first one, because I was so worried that people would think that I was crazy, or worse, that Angus was abusive. I don’t think I even shared either of these links on Facebook. But I was pleasantly surprised at how accepting people were of my views. The number of people who come to my blog by searching about submission in marriage on Google is also rather interesting.

10. Wild infatuation (20 weeks and 4 days)

At my 20 week scan, I was fascinated by my baby’s tiny baby feet, and it seems many other people were too. Someone even came to my blog through Googling “baby feet at 20 weeks.” This blog post remains one of the most viewed. I know, everybody, they’re really cute feet.

9.  Could I have prevented Amanda Todd’s death?

The 15 year old who committed suicide, but left her mark on the world through a video in which she tells the story of her suffering, effected me more than I would have expected. Perhaps that is the mark of motherhood. But I found myself thinking of all the teenagers I know, and of all those who were teenagers when I was young. It is a shame that, too often, we learn our lessons after we need them.

8. Oh, hello third trimester

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People seem to like the photos of my baby bump, which kind of makes me wish I’d done them every week. But, to be honest, I’ve taken bump photos as often as I’ve remembered, so there probably wouldn’t have been many more. This blog post was the first pregnancy update I’d done in a while, which I think accounts for its popularity. It was the one I received the most advice from, too, which was nice. I love when people read my blogs, and then mention them in real life. I like the idea that my thoughts shared here may be the start of a conversation.

7. On homosexuality, and how I feel about it as a Christian

This is one that I thought about for a while, before writing and publishing. I worried that I would offend people. Eventually my husband, who thrives on offending people in this way, convinced me that what I was thinking was worth saying. It’s still not one I shared on Facebook, so it surprised me to find how many people had viewed it. Many of those who follow my blog, and therefore read it, have talked to me about their views. Awesome conversations have been started from this, which is what I love.

6. 7 weeks and 1 day

One of several that I wrote before announcing my pregnancy and published later, this post was particularly popular. People seem to like the warm and the fuzzy, and this account of my husband’s secret excitement about the baby had plenty of both.

5. Girl drama, cliques and those who talk about you behind your back 

This is one that is commonly found in Google, which suggests that it’s a problem for many people.  I asked several people to read this post before publishing it. My thoughts here were relevant to quite a few situations both going on around me and in my own life, and I didn’t want this post to just be a continuation of the problem. But one thing I have learnt is that there will always be problems with gossip and drama, and so there will never be a perfect time to speak about it if you wish to avoid bringing it up in the midst of a situation.

4. What I now know about life… (Parts 1, 2, 3 and 4)

I wrote this series as a way to look back on the biggest lessons I learnt during my time working in full time ministry. My three years as discipleship coordinator at a Christian camp were three of the most amazing years of growth I have ever had. It was during this time that I became an adult. Written in January as I prepared to finish my work, these four posts still have some of the most views, and the most comments, out of all my blog posts in 2012.

3. My husband, the emergency medical technician

My announcement that my husband passed his interview to become an emergency medical technician was one of the most ‘liked’ on Facebook out of almost all of my blog posts this year. I really liked writing this blog, because he had worked so, so hard and so deserved his success.

2. The Bump (24 weeks and 1 day)

This was the first time a lot of people who hadn’t yet seen me pregnant got to “see” my baby bump, and it is my most viewed blog post of 2012. Despite that, it doesn’t quite beat out number 1 in terms of reaction and, to be honest, my enjoyment.

1. First comes love, then comes marriage…

My very favourite blog post to write in 2012, and the one which got the most reaction on WordPress, Facebook and real life combined, was the one in which I announced my pregnancy. I was kind of nervous to announce my pregnancy, to be honest. It had been a secret for so long, it felt kind of wrong to now be able to tell the world. I didn’t announce it to the world until I was almost 14 weeks, because I just didn’t feel ready. I’d kind of liked our baby being our little secret. But then, once I did announce it, I found that I loved everyone knowing. And I love going back and reading the announcements, and remembering what it felt like to first write it.

Twenty three things I love about my twenty three year old husband

I did it, I remembered. His birthday was actually on Tuesday, but Tuesdays are crazy in our house so I didn’t get a chance to do it then. But I did remember, so here is a list of 23 things I love about my husband:

1. That he got up and did my breakfast dishes on his birthday so that I could relax before work
2. His honesty
3. His sense of humour
4. How easily he gets along with people
5. Talking late at night with him about everything and nothing
6. The freedom I have to be myself around him
7. His ideas
8. His deep voice
9. His big hands
10. How smart and logical he is
11. The way he supports me in everything I do
12. His inherent faith in the goodness of God
13. The fact that he doesn’t commit to anything that he isn’t whole-heartedly passionate about
14. How that means he must be passionate about me
15. His kisses
16. His relaxed and easy going attitude
17. The strength of his character
18. His physical strength
19. How understanding he is  
20. How he senses that I’m tired or sick and looks after me without me even needing to say anything
21. His confidence
22. That he is not afraid to share his opinion with people
23. The way he loves me in the everyday things of life

“To fall in love is easy, even to remain in it is not difficult; our human loneliness is cause enough. But it is a hard quest worth making to find a comrade through whose steady presence one becomes steadily the person one desires to be.”
– Anna Louise Strong

Twenty two things I love about my fiance

I’m going to do this every year for his birthday. It’s not his birthday until March, but if I don’t do it right now, I’ll forget by the time March comes around. So, for now, 22 things I love about my fiance, who has been 22 for a while. Watch this space for when it says “23 things I love about my 23 year old husband” – my actual HUSBAND! Goodness me, I am giddy with excitement. 

1. That he asked me to marry him
2. He knows the answer for everything
3. He doesn’t care about what anyone else thinks of him
4. How secure I am in the knowledge that he will provide for me
5. The way it feels to dance with him
6. His inherent trust in the Lord
7. His relaxed, easy-going attitude and the way he always reminds me that it won’t matter in the end
8. His ideas
9. How generous he is with his time and resources
10. The way he befriends the least of these
11. How smart he is
12. His arms that are so muscular that it’s hard to find a shirt for him to wear for our wedding
13. The masculine lines of his face
14. His big brother heart, and how that will so seamlessly slip into being a father heart when the time comes
15. His honesty
16. How founded he is in what he believes
17. His confidence
18. That most of the time when I talk to him I learn something new
19. His passion for hospitality
20. How good he is with money
21. That he goes into battle for those who can’t fight for themselves
22. The way he loves me.