This is the second in a series of questions that I’m frequently asked about my pregnancy. You can find the first question here.
The second most common question I get asked, is:
Are you finding out what the gender is, and do you have a preference?
Actually, to be specific, people who don’t have children have asked since they first found out “Do you know if it’s a girl or a boy?” So, to answer that, no, I don’t know. In New Zealand, the anatomy scan (which is when they can tell you) is at 20 weeks. The 12 week scan is far too early to tell. So the very earliest I could know is the first week of October.
We aren’t finding out. My husband is adamant that he doesn’t want to find out. I may have if he wanted to, but it’s just not as fun knowing if he doesn’t know too.
I don’t mind what gender our baby is. Hopefully he or she won’t be our only child, so we’ll have more chances to have a baby of the other gender. If we have two or three of one gender, I might have a preference, but for now, either way is good as. I do have an inkling about what it is, but whenever I catch myself thinking of my baby as that gender, I feel guilty. I don’t want to be disappointed if it turns out to be the other gender, so I’m trying to think of Baby as gender-neutral for now.
If I have a little boy…
- He might be exactly like a tiny version of my husband, which would be so cute I would have to stop myself from eating him
- He will be the big brother to all my other children
- His daddy will walk around with his chest puffed out for days after the birth
- His brain will be wired for activity and noise
- He will explore, discover, battle and love
- I will get to discover a whole new world of books for boys
- They say boys love their mummies in a special way
If I have a little girl…
- She will be Daddy’s little girl
- I can start the ballet brainwashing straight away, by buying her baby-sized tutus
- Her daddy won’t know what has hit him
- Her brain will be wired for relationships and connection
- I can do her hair and buy her the cutest little outfits
- She will be utterly adorable, as little girls always are
- She will be precious and delightful, and we will make sure she knows it
Either option, from where I’m standing, is absolutely wonderful. I am so excited to meet my little boy or girl, to find out what his or her name is and see his or her personality unfold.
- What are little boys made of?
- Slugs and snails
- And puppy-dogs’ tails,
- That’s what little boys are made of.
- What are little girls made of?
- Sugar and spice
- And everything nice,
- That’s what little girls are made of.